Category: Self Care

Beauty begets beauty

8/15/2017

"Hate begets hate; violence begets violence; toughness begets a greater toughness. We must meet the forces of hate with the power of love... Our aim must never be to defeat or humiliate the white man, but to win his friendship and understanding."

—Martin Luther King, Jr.

Because my mind was going a mile a minute when I sat down to meditate this morning, I plopped a vase of mums directly in the line of my meditative gaze. I'm not sure that this helped me step out of the thought stream but they sure were beautiful to look at. Before I stood up to move along with my day, I gathered them between my hands, buried my face in them and inhaled deeply. I love the smell of mums!

It is too, too easy to be sucked into the virtual world of (often) horror and mayhem. Make it a practice to focus on the beautiful objects in your space. After all, you put them there, didn't you? If you haven't filled your space with objects of beauty that the light can find, please, do yourself a favor and do so now.

The objects that the light finds and illuminates will illuminate your mind, whether you love them or not. Practice seeing what the light illuminates. Practice loving that.

Short post. I'm looking away now. Looking for the beautiful in my immediate vicinity.

"I don't think of all the misery but of the beauty that still remains."

—Anne Frank

One thing at a time

7/4/2017

“A weakness of all human beings is trying to do too many things at once.”
—Henry Ford

There's no such thing as multi-tasking

The ocean waves do not try to reach shore at the same time.

The leaves on a tree do not try to change color at once.

Each wave, each leaf is a unique manifestation of an unfolding process of living experience. Human beings moving through space and time are also unfolding processes of living experiences.

But the human mind? Especially with gazillions of distractions here in the early 21st century? We are so easily distracted that we miss much of the beautiful unfolding process of life.

I make this claim with confidence because I am one of the most easily distracted people I know.

I practice meditation briefly every day but nothing, no meditation I have come across, calms and focuses my attention like drawing or painting. It may not be for everyone but it sure works for me.

In my experience, multitasking is a myth. Trying to multitask, or even expecting yourself to be able to multitask, can leave you dizzy, drained, overwhelmed, ungrounded. You may think that you are working on several projects simultaneously but, in fact, you can only take action on one thing or think one thought at a time (no matter how brief that time may be).

Expect yourself to do one thing at a time and plan for that. It's a sure way to sanity.

"Two things cannot happen at once; it is impossible. It is easy to imagine that two things are happening at once, because our journey back and forth between the two may be very speedy. But even then we are doing only one thing at a time.

"The idea of mindfulness is to slow down the fickleness of jumping back and forth. We have to realize that we are not extraordinary mental acrobats. We are not all that well trained. And even an extraordinarily well-trained mind could not manage that many things at once--not even two. But because things are very simple and direct, we can focus on, be aware and mindful of, one thing at a time. That one-pointedness, that bare attention, seems to be the basic point."

— Chogyam Trungpa, from "The Four Foundations of Mindfulness Meditation"

I have a long list of reasons why I continue to teach drawing and watercolor after 20 years. One reason is that the process allows people the opportunity to quiet their minds and practice focusing on one task at a time.

Practicing drawing and watercolor is mindfulness training on steroids.

Sleep on it

3/28/2017

You need more sleep.

That's the name of a book on the shelf in my bathroom. It's a bunch of good advice to humans from cats.

I'm going to make this post quick because I'd like to get to sleep, oh, right about NOW. But I'll sleep better if I write this post and publish it first. I've missed my regular weekly posts because I've been profoundly exhausted from a sinus infection and have used every ounce of energy to do only what was necessary. Although that also happened to include outlining and partially designing three new courses (one of which I created while teaching the first iteration).

Have you ever been so tired that you cannot sleep? That's the way I've been feeling. Laying down a lot but not getting proper sleep. That, however, is changing. Right now. Tonight, in fact. Because, hey...

Happy New Year!

Today is the first day of the new astrological year. Last night was the new moon in Aries (the first sign of the Zodiac) and while every new moon is a good time to set intentions, this particular new moon is a perfect time to set intentions for the next twelve months. What kind of year do you want to have?

Write down your intentions of what you want to consciously create in your life. Long hand. On paper. Just make a list. Tonight or tomorrow would be good because after that the moon moves into another sign. (Don't ask me which. Not an astrologer.)

I need more quality sleep. So that's big on my intention agenda. As I consider how to bring about more quality sleep, I know exactly what I need to change.

1. Less to no coffee.
2. Less to no computer screen time before bed.
3. Less to no eating before bed.
4. No electronics in my bedroom (at least, none turned on in any way.)
5. Definitely no alcohol.

on the plus side

6. More clean, pretty, good quality bed linens (well, I think I have plenty).
7. More reading at night.
8. More lavender and eucalyptus and calming, sacred essential oils diffusing and on the soles of my feet.
9. More intentional release of daytime worries and
10. more trust in the universe.

Yep. That's my list. Because...

I want to be brainwashed!

Did you know that, with a good night's sleep, your brain is actually washed? I forget where I first heard that but don't take my word for it, read this NPR article.

I'll bet you've had that common experience of going to bed with a problem and waking up with the solution. Well, that's a perfect example of it all coming out in the wash. The brain wash! Just writing about it makes me want to conk out right now. But I am already doing one major thing that will keep me from quality sleep. Staring at a computer screen late at night. But on the other hand, I'm going to publish this post tonight and that will alleviate some anxiety, so... you know, six of one, half a dozen of another. (I wonder how many more pithy phrases I can include before wrapping this thing up.)

Well, 'nuff said. Time for you know what.

I'll say good night with an old song that I've just discovered is the traditional Brownie Closing Song. But I know that it's older than the Brownies because my mother would sing it to me at night and her older, German housekeeper sang it to her and her siblings around 1920. (The Brownies weren't formed till 1914 in the UK and were originally called "Rosebuds".)

Click here for the tune and the lyrics, as I learned them, are:

Now run along home and jump into bed.
Say your prayers and cover up your head.
The very same thing I say unto you,
You dream of me and I'll dream of you.
Good night! Good night! Good night! Good night! Good night!

Everything will look different in the morning.

Rules for healing your head cold

3/6/2017

Healing is a matter of time, but it is sometimes also a matter of opportunity.
—Hippocrates

One week ago, I came down with a serious head cold. Wow. While it may take me another week to fully regain my strength, the head cold is more or less gone.

I don't get colds often but when I do, they mess with my head by which I mean I think that I've always been ill and always will be ill. I have to remind myself of the best healing protocol and then insist that I follow it. Usually take me a day or two to get myself in line but the sooner I do, the better I feel and the faster I heal.

The thing about colds is that they seem pretty harmless. Mild illnesses. Until you're in the midst of one. Then you remember how miserable they make you feel. The "common" cold is any one of a range of viruses that can linger and prolong your misery and develop into far serious situations like sinus infections, bronchitis, pneumonia, and more.

I'm not a doctor but I'll tell you this much. Most people I know—including yours truly—will power through the first stages of a cold when it's probably the most important time to power down. I powered through last week. I taught a full day then went to a meeting the next morning then had a couple of friends over the following night. I can only hope that I did not infect anyone.

Still, around all those absolute minimal activities, I followed some basic rules.

Accept that you have a virus.
Look at the cold as your body's way of saying, hey, let's have a rest, a little clean out and reset.
Rest. As much as possible.
That being said, get some fresh air. Take an easy walk every day.
Keep a stack of clean handkerchiefs. Don't bother ironing. Why irritate your skin with paper?
If you must go out, put a hat on your head and bundle up your neck and chest.
If you must be around people, don't breathe on or touch them.
Wash your hands often.
No alcohol, caffeine or cigarettes. Do I have to say that? (And I don't care about the age old whiskey recommendations.)
Vitamin C. Try small doses (250 mg) throughout the day. I know the jury's out on this but I think it helps and that it matters what type and what brand. I'm loving Garden of Life Raw C these days.
Drink lots of purified water. It's true--keep those liquids coming.
Don't eat anything white. That includes sugar and dairy.
Do have lots of warm tea and broth with garlic, onions, and a pinch of cayenne pepper.
Sure, chicken soup is good. Add a bit of that red pepper and it's golden.
Fresh lemons with ginger, peppermint and honey in hot water. Yum. If you don't have fresh lemons or ginger (or peppermint for that matter), use drops of those essential oils.
Add essential oils of thyme, oregano, and peppermint to your water. They all have antiviral properties and I swear that the oregano oil helped me knock out last week's cold tout de suite. Peppermint helps with sinus congestion and headaches, too.
Lavender essential oil will keep you calm and help you rest.
Don't take that over the counter crap. Really. Have you read those labels? They may subdue the symptoms and allow you to power through to work and travel but they're not addressing the underlying virus and the resulting lack of rest alone may actually prolong the cold. IMHO.

Along with everyone else, I don't like coming down with a cold but I do have to say that if I take good care of myself through the experience, I usually feel better coming out the other end than I did when I picked up the virus. Which makes sense, come to think of it, if we're more susceptible to viruses when our immune systems are down. How great can we really feel if our immune system is down?

I hope you don't need this but when and if you do, I think these are a pretty good set basic rules.

How to Ground Yourself

2/28/2017

Get dirty and grow something

On Sunday, I made a list of Things To Do.

It was the New Moon in Pisces. An eclipse, too, with lots of strong and rare configurations in our solar system. While the new moon is traditionally a good time for new intentions, this particular set up begged us to slow down and pay attention.

Winter has all but disappeared in my part of the world. It was a cool morning but sunny so I decided to spend a little time repotting a few plants. Then I carried out all of the plants I overwinter inside. One thing led to another and I cleaned and clipped and rooted and repotted geraniums, begonias, my sprouting fig twig and the first avocado tree I've ever managed to grow from a pit.

When the work was complete and the plants were all watered, enjoying their outing, I looked at the time and it was late afternoon. How did that happen? Where did the day go?

Gardening was not on the morning list I made, and yet, that's what I did. So, that's what I was meant to do and when I brought all of the plants in and set them on clean windowsills, I was pleased. Still, the time I'd set aside to work was gone. Oh, well. Can't get it back.

That being said, playing in the dirt with plants was probably the best way to weather the Mars (War)/Uranus (Chaos) conjunction, just one of the heavenly configurations of the day. I surrendered to my intuition and threw myself wholeheartedly into the the earth and green life so that I did not notice time passing.

Mars and Uranus. War and Chaos. Sound familiar? If you're awake or just waking up now, I recommend that you do everything you can think of to ground yourself. If you're well-grounded, you're more likely to be able to respond to rather than resist whatever comes your way and that will do you and the rest of the planet a world of good.

Every moment and every event of every man's life on earth plants something in his soul.
—Thomas Merton

A few ways to ground yourself

Get plenty of rest. That includes sleep.
Go out in nature and walk.
Garden. Indoors or out. If you don't have plants, visit a nature or garden center and wander around.
Turn off all of your electronics and devices.
Sit still and focus on your breath. In. Out. Slow it down.
Stretch your body in any way you can. It will help you remember that you're a living, breathing being in a body on Earth, not an incessant, cascading array of thoughts. Also, it feels pretty good.
Apply a good essential oil of a tree to the soles of your feet then massage what's left at the back of your neck. Inhale what's left on the palms of your hands.

Good essential oils for grounding yourself:

White Fir
Frankincense
Melaleuca (Tea Tree)

Each of these oils has a unique grounding expression but my go-to grounding blend is dōTERRA's
Balance (with Frankincense, Spruce, Ho Wood, Blue Tansy Flower and Blue Chamomile). I use this on the bottom of my feet every morning before donning my socks and shoes to leave the house.

Essential oils are literally the quintessence, the energetic vibration of plants. They're the aromatic compounds each plant uses to protect and heal itself. They're also nature's gift to us, to help us protect and heal ourselves.

If you're interested in learning more about how these essential oils can help you with self-care, please email me. We can set up a one-on-one call plus, I'll be hosting an online class in the next month or so if you'd like to be notified of online classes for self-care with essential oils, sign up here.

On the last day of the world
I would want to plant a tree

—W.S. Merwin, from Place, The Rain in the Trees

One day later... My baby avocado tree is in shock. I have to admit that I struggled to set it upright and in my zest was not thinking about the tender roots. Lesson learned. Poor thing. Well, I have a jar of sugar water to nurse it and, with luck, that will help it readjust and keep growing. The baby fig tree seems happy so that's something.

What are you doing to ground yourself and feed your soul?

How to put your house in order

2/21/2017

Before I tell anyone else what to do,

I have to put my own house in order. I've been working on it and have claimed a head start on Spring this year.

If my space is in chaos, it's difficult for me to be clear headed and open hearted—two requirements for serving others. Also, I like the view of the world around me to adhere to some sense of aesthetic order. It's important to me.

As a freelance creative, teacher and coach, I wear a lot of different hats. Translation: I have a lot of different piles of stuff that support each project, class and client. Although I keep each collection of, mostly, papers, books and supplies in individual bins, I have to work at organizing on a daily basis. And then there's all the other stuff of life. If I ever wonder at the stuff I accumulate, I can only look to myself. I bring it into my home and work space. So I am the one who has to change my habits and actions.

Like Parkinson's Law ("work expands so as to fill the time available for its completion"), stuff expands so as to fill available space. No matter how often I organize and clean, it seems I turn around to find that, whoa, there's another pile of clutter. How does this happen so fast? Does this happen in your world?

I cannot stand clutter and yet I make it. What to do, what to do?

Well, there are a few "simple" rules to follow.

Know thyself

Before we get to the rules, first things first.

What are my particular clutter problems? Normal things. Weird things.

What's my stuff problem?

I am a book magnet. As soon as I could write my own name, I was scrawling it into the end papers of my father's fine editions of, oh, Arthur Quiller-Couch's Notes on Shakespeare's Workmanship or Donald Francis Tovey's Essays in Musical Analysis. So, books.

Paper. All of my artwork is on paper and so are my teaching demos. And live class handouts. And OMG, magazines that I keep for students and "reference".

Shells (lots of shells) and rocks and stones and crystals and feathers and pine cones and baby plants rooting and shooting in various stages.

Small treasured objects that I've picked up along the route of my peripatetic life.

Jars. Why do I spend so much time cleaning and storing glass jars?

Bubble wrap. I know I'm going to need it!

Okay, those are my main culprits. What are yours?

What are my habit problems with stuff?

I leave my shoes around. Mostly, I take my shoes off when I come in the house. But sometimes I don't.

I drop things on the table by my back door. Any table. By any back door. This is chronic.

I pile books and magazines and professional papers and my journals by my reading and writing chair.

I leave glasses and cups where I put them when I've finished drinking whatever is inside them.

My studio... I pile sketches and class demos and reference photos in places where they don't belong by which I mean on work space that I need for...drawing and painting! Other than that, it's an ongoing creative space, a place I change out my teaching gear so, I have to allow it a certain amount of disarray.

What are your habit problems with stuff?

One does not accumulate but eliminate. It is not daily increase but daily decrease. The height of cultivation always runs to simplicity. —Bruce Lee

Seven Rules of Order

A place for everything and everything in its place.

Put your toys back where they belong when you are finished playing with them. That goes for clothing and shoes, too.

Complete your actions. Preparation is critical to most action. So is cleaning up. Complete your cycle of activity.

Do you love it? If not, then why is it in your space?

The one year rule. This is tried and true. If you haven't used something in the past year, let it go.

STOP BUYING STUFF YOU DON'T NEED! Think you really need something? Give it 24 hours. Then reconsider.

Use a timer. Think that putting things back in order will take too long? Use a timer. Set it on 15 minutes. You'll be finished before the timer goes off.

Accept yourself. We all have chronic habits that are challenging to change. That's where accountability and coaching come in handy. If you have chronic habits related to order, don't beat yourself up about them. Be compassionate with yourself and do the best you can.

The present order is the disorder of the future. —Louis-Antoine Saint-Just

Why bother?

The point of putting your space in order is to help create order within yourself. If you have order within and have better energetic space and strength to deal with chaos in the world at large.

Chaos is a smokescreen and one of the things it obscures is the truth. Keeping your own house in order subdues anxiety and allows you to be more confident and discerning in general.

There is, of course, much more to keeping your own house in order. People have built illustrious careers on this theme. There's also more to chaotic living than the state of order in your personal space. But that's a topic for a future post. And I haven't even brought up cleaning!

One thing at a time.

A treat for your efforts

Overwhelmed? Too tired to straighten up at the end of the day or the evening or whatever project you were involved with? Keep the essential oil of Lemon on hand. I have a bottle in every room. Lemon is the oil of focus and helps you attend to one thing at a time. It's crisp citrus scent combats mental fatigue and restores your energy allowing you to complete projects. Put a drop or two in the palms of your hands, rub them together and inhale. Who doesn't perk up and smile at the zest of fresh lemon? Get in touch if you'd like to learn more about essential oils.

I hope this post helps you put your house in order. Even just a little bit. Carry on...

Button up your overcoat

2/14/2017

Feel like you're living in Crazytown? Just a little bit?

Here's what I'm going to do for you. I'm reactivating my writing practice and dedicating my blogging to Self-Care. Nothing is more important right now.

If you don't take good care of yourself, how can you possibly take care of your space, your people, your work, your civic duties?

You know the air flight rule of placing your oxygen mask on yourself before placing it on anyone else, even your child. This holds true for your activities of daily living. From the simplest act of flossing (I don't care what that recent study purports, flossing is important!) and brushing your teeth, to a daily spiritual practice—whatever connects you to the Divine.

There are so many ways into self-care. Eating well, exercising, experiencing beauty, spending time with Nature, finding ways to exit the ever-cascading stream of thought... if only for split seconds. Practice, as with most things, is key. Practice loving yourself enough to take care of your body, mind and soul.

Actually, what's key is self-acceptance. When we launch into any regime of "self-improvement", it's too easy to fail and fail again and to fall into self-flagellation for not being good enough. So, along with improving our self care, it's as important to be compassionate towards ourselves and to accept ourselves for being human. That's what we are. Flesh and bone and experience and reaction and the whole can of worms. The latter of which is, generally speaking, how we end up. Why not feel as good as we can while we're here?

"To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don't need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself. " – Thich Nhat Hanh

Why self-care?

If we accept ourselves the way we are at any given moment (even if we have to work through a bit of recovery from some momentary situation) and take good care of ourselves, we'll feel good. And what on earth is more important than feeling good?

When I am feeling not so good, I am a whole lot less fun to be around than when I am feeling well. Other people and the world at large seems aggravating, less filled with light and beauty and humor. When I feel well, life is good and other people are, too.

I started by asking if you feel like you're living in Crazytown. Don't know where that is? (Lucky you.) Let's just say it's the place where the monsters of stress reside. Good self-care helps us skirt that neighborhood. And, boy, if there were ever a time to center ourselves and stay out that bedlam, it's now.

From here on in, I'm focusing on an eclectic array of products, practices, inspirations, gifts of nature and well, we'll see what surprises arise.

Right now? I recommend the essential oil of Bergamot also known as the Oil of Self Acceptance. It's a bright and tangy soft citrus fragrance from a citrus fruit the size of an orange but with way deeper dimples and the color of lime and lemon. I keep Bergamot oil in my purse these days along with my go-to kit of first-responder oils. Bergamot beckons my heart into an easy smile, dispelling the darkness and encouraging me to awaken the shininess of my true self.

Today is Valentine's Day. Whether you are with a loved one or alone, whether you think this is a fako holiday (it actually dates back to pre-Christian times), Valentine's Day symbolizes the expression of love.

Love yourself for being a unique expression of life on earth. If that's a stretch, whatever you might think are your shortcomings, maybe just consider them as challenging puzzles to work out while you're here. The better you are able to accept yourself, the better you'll accept others.

Your light will shine that much more easily.

What they sang...

Original lyrics (sans verse)

Button up your overcoat
When the wind is free
Take good care of yourself
You belong to me

Eat an apple every day
Get to bed by three
Oh, take good care of yourself
You belong to me

Be careful crossing streets, ooh, ooh
Cut out sweets, ooh, ooh
Lay off meat, ooh, ooh
You'll get a pain and ruin your tum-tum

Wear your flannel underwear
When you climb a tree
Oh, take good care of yourself
You belong to me

Button up your overcoat
When the wind is free
Oh, take good care of yourself
You belong to me

When you sass a traffic cop
Use diplomacy
Take good care of yourself
You belong to me

Beware of frozen funds, ooh, ooh
Stocks and bonds, ooh, ooh
Dockside thugs, ooh, ooh
You'll get a pain and ruin your bankroll

Keep the spoon out of your cup
When you're drinking tea
Oh, take good care of yourself
You belong to me

Don't sit on hornet's tails, ooh, ooh
Or on nails, ooh, ooh
Or third rails, ooh, ooh
You'll get a pain and ruin your tum-tum

Keep away from bootleg hooch
When you're on a spree
Oh, take good care of yourself
You belong to me

Henderson, DeSylva & Brown, 1928

Beauty begets beauty

One thing at a time

Sleep on it

You need more sleep.

Happy New Year!

I want to be brainwashed!

Rules for healing your head cold

How to Ground Yourself

Get dirty and grow something

A few ways to ground yourself

How to put your house in order

Know thyself

Seven Rules of Order

Why bother?

A treat for your efforts

Button up your overcoat

What they sang...

Inspiring you to heal yourself, shine your light
and make your own magic

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Beauty begets beauty

One thing at a time

Sleep on it

You need more sleep.

Happy New Year!

I want to be brainwashed!

Rules for healing your head cold

How to Ground Yourself

Get dirty and grow something

A few ways to ground yourself

﻿How to put your house in order

Know thyself

Seven Rules of Order

Why bother?

A treat for your efforts

Button up your overcoat

What they sang...

Inspiring you to ​heal yourself, shine your lightand make your own magic

categories

archives

How to put your house in order

Inspiring you to heal yourself, shine your light
and make your own magic